"Tell Me, Mr. Gateman"

written 2003.

No matter how much the world needed him,

Nothing in the world could keep him here

not even love

not even my love

It’s almost as if it wasn’t good enough

But good times tell us to ignore the saddest possibilities 

so we do

and I did.

 

I loved him with all my heart

it seems silly to put a price on a heart

would anything have made him stay?

 

When you die, are you given the option to stay or to go

if you were to just say no,

I do not accept you

are you denying Christ or saving ur family?

why don’t they understand

the sickest man in the world

will still be loved

loved a little greater

if that.

 

what part do they see?

what part is so hard to understand

My God, 

my sister,

at 22 months old

the greatest man in her life was taken by death

the man who teach her how to fly

the man who loved her more than life

 

Mr Gateman,

a picture cannot tell you I love you

a picture can only stand there and look pretty

look at you and smile

but what if you don’t want to smile

what if you want to scream

and rant and shout 

kick over a few chairs

knock over a few vases 

 

What if the one man you want to strangle

is the one man who isn’t there

and the fact he isn’t there

is the reason you want to strangle him

 

You can grow up your whole life

thinking you’re content without a dad

and then your wedding day comes and you can’t move forward without one.

 

What if nothing in life mattered but your family

and then your look at your own and see that

your tree has fallen

No one stands there anymore

 

You can’t repair him

because he’s gone

you can’t replace him

cos that’s just wrong

What do you do?

What do you do?

 

Where does your life go?

Where do you go, Mr. Gateman?

No books will give you the answers

Using the Bible as your guide, I suppose can help

But death is a lost for humanity

And all humans do not turn to God

in fact, many think he is a fraud

so what do they do?

What do they do?

When death is their loss

when revenge is a medicine you’ll get at any cost.

 

I know what I’d do

I’d search high and low

I’d go to a place 

You can’t even trace

I’d find my dad, I know.

 

I’m supposed to be content

with a few white clouds for a face

with a home video for his voice

all of which I can erase?

 

I’m supposed to live my life

as if he’s always near

watching over my lonely shoulder

crying each and every tear?

 

I’m supposed to be myself

Run and jump like nothing’s wrong

But you know what?

I’m tired of bullshit answers,

“Life’s unfair.”

“You’re weak.”

“Be strong!”

 

If life’s unfair,

then I blame life

If struggle is bothersome

then I blame strife

 

And if I want to run and scream and shout

Promise me, Mr. Gateman

I won’t be booted out

 

Mr. Gateman,

give me a reason to be filled with glee,

to celebrate life, saying,

“I’m free, yes, I’m free!”

Give me a reason

not to cry or pout

as if suffering I just now figured out.

Tell me to accept it

Go ahead and lie

Look me in the eye

Tell me not to die.

 

Life is something I just can’t control

Why should I try to give it my all?

Since life is not fair

then 

must I accept my fate?

 

If life’s so unfair,

then salvation must be fake

If I’m to believe

acceptance is fair

forcing my solace

making me bear

all of the things

that hurt me so

am I to believe

he’s expected to go

Am I to believe a wife don’t need her man

a baby don’t need her father

a stranger don’t need a hand

cos every time you take away

a person from this land

They did not leave the ones they love

You pulled them with your hands

I’m sorry if I offend you

I’m sorry if I’m wry,

5 years ago,

you stole my dad

and today, I still cry

Life is love

Love is sorrow

Love makes me feel like no tomorrow!

The person I will love today

you will take

I will pay.

 

You make me feel like love is trite

Like it couldn’t make him stay

You say that love is so great

and yet you take my love away.

 

Mr. Gateman,

I can’t carry on

drying every tear

All I want

is my dad

It’s life

not death

I fear.